What Can I Do About My Kids’ Manners?
The underlying principle of good manners is to be considerate of others. Whether it's holding open a door or giving up a seat to someone in greater need, kids can learn to notice those around them and behave more thoughtfully.
Here are 6 secrets for helping kids to be more considerate and, therefore, polite.
- Set an example. Kids are hard-wired to imitate their parents' behavior.
- Reinforce the positive. Make a point of saying how pleased you are when your child has shown consideration for others.
- Explain the point of good manners. Unless you tell them, kids don't always recognize the impact of their behavior on others. And be specific.
- Set reasonable expectations. It requires a degree of maturity to be able to take another's point of view. Coordination and impulse control also develop over time. Make sure your expectations are age appropriate.
- Be clear about what matters. Families have different rules. Be consistent. Insist on the behaviors that are important in your family.
- Keep a sense of humor. Learning table manners can be tedious. It helps if you develop a set of funny reminders that will make repeating please and thank you less tedious. Or turn it into a game. Pretend you're dining at the White House!
To read more, go to Talking to Your Kids About Manners.