School’s back in session. It’s time for fall activities (all those after-school programs) and those awesome fall treats (pumpkin smoothies or apple pancakes, anyone?) Your kids are crazy busy. Try these revealing conversation starters, at home or on the road.

1. Would you rather go on a field trip exploring space at a planetarium or examining ocean life at an aquarium?

2. Would you rather receive praise for getting a good grade on an important test or making a great play in a big game?

3. Would you rather have weekly quizzes that count less toward your final grade or a few big tests that count more?

4. Would you rather have to wear a school uniform but eat whatever you want for lunch or have the freedom to choose your clothes but not your lunch?

5. Would you rather sit at the front of the class to speak up or in the back to listen quietly?