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Inside Highlights August 2018: Ask Arizona®

Standing Your Ground When You’re Being Pushed Around

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Curious, Creative, Caring, and Confident™
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Arizona says, “Sorry, I’ve had enough," when a game someone suggests looks too risky. You can read a summary of the story below, or find the Ask Arizona feature on pages 40–41 of the August issue. Use the questions that follow to talk to your child about how the themes in this story relate to her friendships.
Inside Highlights August 2018: Ask Arizona
Sometimes, there’s a fine line between being a willing participant and being someone who gets bullied—especially when a friend of a friend pushes her way into the scene and takes over!

And that’s exactly what happened when a not-so-nice friend of a friend muscled her way into plans Arizona had made with her new friend Molly that did not include the interloper Samantha and her crazy ideas about what’s fun—and funny.

As if that weren’t enough, the third wheel Samantha badgered the pair into trying a high-risk activity. That’s when Arizona drew the line. In a letter to Wondering in Wyoming, who faced a similar issue, Arizona said:

  • Don’t let anyone pressure you into doing things you don’t want to do.
  • Be polite but speak your mind.
  • Go with your gut if someone or something makes you feel uncomfortable.

Conversation Starters:

  • Things Samantha thought were fun didn’t appeal to Arizona. Name an activity your friends like a lot but you’re just not into.
  • What would you say to a friend who wanted you to do something you didn’t want to do?
  • What would you do, or say, if a friend made you feel bad when you turned her down?
  • Would that make it more likely that you would give in to her?
  • Has anyone called you a name you didn’t really like? What was it? Why didn’t you like it? What would you do if someone gave you a mean or insulting nickname?

Reading Comprehension Boosters:

  • What made Arizona feel most uncomfortable when she visited Molly?
  • What nickname did Samantha give Arizona? Why didn’t Arizona like it?
  • When did Arizona begin to get a very bad feeling about Samantha’s behavior?
  • When did Arizona finally listen to her gut?
  • Do you think Samantha really cared that her mother had other plans for the cookies? What in the story makes you say that?