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Inside Highlights® Magazine December 2017

Dear Highlights Answers Kids’ Q’s about Dealing with a Difficult Classmate, Supporting a Friend, and Lending a Hand

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Inside Highlights® Magazine December 2017
Every month, kids from coast-to-coast write to Highlights asking for help solving everyday problems.

We don’t have all the answers—but we have plenty, and we’re happy to share them with kids.

To find out more about Dear Highlights, explore the print version of the column on page 42 of the December 2017 issue, or read the recaps here. Then use the prompts that follow to launch an engaging conversation with your child.

E-mailer Alexia says her best friend is a talented singer who is afraid to “put herself out there.” Is there anything she can do?

We encouraged Alexia to explore ways to help her friend feel more comfortable sharing her talent but advised against pressuring the budding songstress. Ultimately, it’s up to her friend to decide whether she wants to pursue her talent.

Q’s for your kids:

  • Do you have any interesting or unusual talents? Can you name them?
  • Is there one talent or skill you’re most proud of? Which one?
  • Do your best friends have anything that they’re particularly good at? What do they do best?
  • Have you ever wished you had the same skills as, say, a friend who is athletic or plays the piano very well? Why or why not?
F. from California likes to express his opinion, but a classmate gets upset when he doesn’t agree with her. How should he respond?

We suggested that F. continue to be friendly but avoid letting his classmate’s attitude interfere with his confidence or mood. Like everyone else, F. has a right to voice his own opinion. If his classmate insists on arguing when F. isn’t comfortable doing so, he can walk away.

Q’s for your kids:

  • Are there times you don’t feel comfortable sharing your thoughts or feelings with others? Who or what makes you feel that way?
  • What do you do when that happens? Do you express your opinion anyway?
  • What do you think you might learn by letting others express their opinions?
  • What could you do to encourage others to listen to what you have to say?
  • What does it mean if someone says “Oh, Alex, he always has to have the last word.”
E-mailer Cody enjoys helping others. He asked for tips to become a better helper.

We praised Cody for having such a fantastic goal and encouraged him to keep his eyes open every day for people in need of help. We suggested he think of the talents he could share, and then look for opportunities in the community to use those skills to help others, perhaps through a charity or a volunteer organization.

Q’s for your kids:

  • Can you name three ways you might be able to help your parents, grandparents, or siblings?
  • In what ways might you help neighbors, classmates, and friends?
  • Name three different acts of kindness you could perform for complete strangers.
  • How do you feel when you lend a hand or offer kind words to others?
  • How do you feel when others help you?
  • What type of volunteer organization would you most like to join?