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Inside Highlights May 2018: Ask Arizona®

Is There a Nice Way to Say “Don’t Copy Me”?

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The answer is yes!
Ask Arizona May 2018
What’s an easy thing to do when a little sib loves you so much that all he wants to do is be like you, and copy you, and it’s making you annoyed? Stop the behavior. Fast. But we all know that’s hard to do without hurting the little guy’s feelings.

So, when Annoyed in Alaska writes to Arizona and asks what to say to his super-irritating, copycat little brother to make him stop copying once and for all, Arizona responds with a story. She reveals how she had mishandled a similar situation with her younger sister, Indi, and how deeply she regretted it later. BFF Mareya reminded Arizona that Indi copies her because she looks up to her; Arizona apologized to Indi and smoothed things over in a very cute way.

The takeaway for Annoyed in Alaska and other readers:

  • Treat your siblings with patience and kindness.
  • Try to understand why little kids act the way they do.
  • Find caring ways to tell young sibs things that are difficult for you to say. You won’t regret it.
For more Ask Arizona, check out pages 40–41 of the May 2018 issue. Then set aside time with your child to discuss the conversation starters below.

Conversation Starters:

  • Describe a time when you lost your patience with a sibling or friend.
  • Did you regret it later?
  • What did you say to apologize—or what should you have said?  
  • Have you ever copied people you admire—the way they talk, the way they dress, the way they cut their hair?
  • Would it bother you if your siblings joined you every time you spent time with a friend?
  • Name someone you look up to. Why do you look up to that person?
  • How would you feel if someone, maybe a younger sibling, looked up to you and wanted to be just like you?

Reading Comprehension Boosters:

  • What do you think Arizona meant when she said, “It’s just that sometimes I feel like I have a shadow that doesn’t belong to me”?
  • What are some of the ways Indi “copied” Arizona?
  • How did Arizona feel about Indi following her around everywhere?
  • Mareya viewed Arizona’s copycat problem differently. What did she say to Arizona?What plan did Arizona and Mareya devise so Arizona could apologize to Indi?