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Inside Highlights® Magazine November 2017

Dear Highlights® Answers Kids’ Q’s About Teasing, Forgetting Something Important, and Feeling out of Place

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This month, we tell kids how to survive teasing, avoid being forgetful, and appreciate what makes them unique and special.
Inside Highlights Magazine November 2017
Here at Highlights, we believe that even kids’ smallest problems deserve attention. That’s the reason for our Dear Highlights feature. We want kids to know they can overcome life’s little challenges and, of course, that we’re here to help them.

Want to know what’s on your child’s mind? Check out page 42 of the November 2017 issue, or read the summaries here. Then set aside time to talk to your child. Use the prompts that follow to guide a meaningful conversation.

They Asked, We Answered

Stella’s peers tease her for being the youngest and shortest in class, and she wants to know how to stop them. We realize that many kids find teasing hurtful, so we urged Stella to think of all the advantages of being her height and age. (There are lots of them!) We also thought she could play along with the kids and come up with clever responses, but added that if the teasing feels hurtful, she should consult a parent or her teacher.

Q’s for your kids:

  • Kids get teased for lots of reasons: their height, weight, age, the clothes they wear, and not being a good athlete. What do kids at your school get teased about—and how do they respond to teasing?
  • Why do you think some kids tease others? Are they lonely? Insecure? Trying to make friends? Showing off in class or on the playground?
  • Is teasing ever OK? Can it be good-natured—or is it always hurtful?
  • When isn’t it upsetting?
Jasper needs to wear glasses at school but he sometimes forgets to bring them. He asked for strategies to help him remember. We suggested two: leaving handwritten reminders where he will be sure to see them, and packing his glasses at the same time every day so it becomes a habit.

Q’s for your kids:

  • Can you name three things you do as part of your daily routine? Your weekly routine? How about monthly?
  • Is it hard to remember to do certain things? Like what? What makes it difficult?
  • What do you forget most often?
  • Can you think of three things you could do to help yourself remember to grab your lunch or pack up your homework?
E-mailer Sydney sometimes feels out of place because no one else in her orchestra practices her religion. We gave Sydney an analogy: just as the music her orchestra plays would be dull if everyone played the same instrument, it would be boring, too, if everyone we met were exactly like one another. We reminded her, too, to focus on traits and talents that make her unique and urged her to appreciate others’ differences.

Q’s for your kids:

  • Have you ever felt as if you were the only one in a room who didn’t have something in common with the other people? What made you feel that way?
  • Does being different make you feel uncomfortable? Special? Interested in finding out more about others?
  • What traits make you feel unique? Explain why you’re proud of them.
  • Do you agree that life would be boring if every person were exactly the same? Why or why not?